Know your questions You must not be afraid to question your path. You know who you are, you know your truest why, and the goal you have set. Now you hit the obstacles. If you live long enough, you will learn that you can never predict some of life’s obstacles. You will face illness, death, betrayal, and em- barrassment. You’ll want to ask God, “Why me?” You’ll begin to question your own actions and what you could have done differently. The point is, you are wasting time with irrelevant questions. You can’t find answers to those. You must learn to ask the right questions. When faced with a failure on an attempt to your ultimate goal, instead of questioning who you are and your own worth, set yourself a list of questions to determine if this is still the right goal for you. 1. How can this be FOR you? Tony Robbins coined this one with “your life is happening for you, not to you.” So, the question sparks an attempt to get past your emotions about the failure and to the solution phase. Can you take what happened and find a detour to your goal? If you cannot find a way to move forward, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate your goal. 2. Is it true? Yes, we stumble and fall, but is this a true failure to the point you cannot continue? Put very simply, are you just being dramatic? Often, we face adversity or a challenge but not a full-blown failure. We make out the challenge to be much bigger than it actually is. Don’t tell me you were never in a dating relationship and misconstrued a text message or phone call to tailspin into a full-blown nuclear meltdown. No? Just me? 3. Am I making an excuse? When things get hard, we naturally start to identify all the reasons why we should quit. The problem with excuses is they are usually valid. There is no time, there is not enough money, there are no good people to hire, I am always surrounded by bad food, I don’t have support from my spouse. All could be true in your eyes. All could be true in your reality - but the truth is, if you really know who you are, if you really know what your intentions are and why you are reaching for this goal– excuses are BS. They will not have a place at the table. You’ll notice them for what they are, and you’ll see that you still want/desire/have to reach your goal. Quitting isn’t an option when you can call yourself out on your own BS. 1. Will I be able to be happy with myself if I stop this now? This is the deep one. You must dig down deep in your soul and truly know who you are to answer this one. If you quit now, will you be happy with yourself when you are by yourself? sources to hire help. I could make this failure more powerful for my future than a blemish on my record. Those questions were all answered. The question that really gets me though, the one that will ignite my fire, is “will I be happy with myself if I quit now?” That answer is an easy NO. So, as they say, third time can really be a charm. While goals and destinations will change, you will find that questions will not only help you decide when you must move on, they will also help you define who you are. When the chips are down and it’s all over, you are left with only yourself. This person you built. This life. We have one chance. ONE. Why aren’t you making every moment count and chasing those goals like your life de- pends on it? What if it does depend on it? I once failed a very important test to my career. I actually failed it two times. I remember thinking, I guess this wasn’t meant for me. I am not smart enough, not focused enough. I don’t have the time to study. I don’t have enough resources to manage my life to get this. I was embarrassed. I was mad. The difference maker in taking it one more time was questions. I could make time if I wanted to sacrifice temporary pleasures. I could manage my re- 18 JUNE 2022 | PROMOTING EVENTS THAT MAKE A DIFFERENCE | INTHEVUE.COM
